Take a BREAK – Together
Why? The Need: Divorce rate for even Christians is 50%+
Lots of stress in life; busyness; lives lived apart from each other – separate paths
Danger of a disconnect; lack of unity; independent spirits;
So other people/things don’t become the main thing – child-centered; or when kids go away, the couple says, “Who are you?”
Anxiety – we develop wrong perspectives, and focus on wrong areas of life
What is it? Difference between date night and a break; vacation vs. break. A date: shorter time frame, eat a meal or an event (concert, movie, play); not necessarily meeting of the minds.
Vacation: could include family, very filled with activity; could include together time; read books/relax time
BREAK: more intentional focused on the two of you; not based on an activity, but spending time together. Can be longer than a date, but shorter than vacation.
How to? Examples: Susan visits a friend.
Eye doctor visits, errands. Intentional getaway for a couple nights during a stressful time.
What Benefits? how does this meet the need?
Infuses new life into the relationship
Reminds the two of you you’re a team; in it together
Take a step back from craziness to reset
Relieve stress
When spouse suggests an idea, it shows he wants to spend time with you. Encouraging!
Gives time to talk, catch up on spouse’s life/thoughts, have fun; be together without a purpose!
Refocus perspectives; reaffirm priorities